Culture of Comparison
Mixed feelings. For what the topic was, it stood as a mountain of stress before the two keynote speakers – Max Khatri and Sunil Thapa. Having only been in Nepal to see the team handling the ground work of Debunking Myths for a couple of days, it was a little worrying at first because everything seemed to be spinning out of control and the team wasn’t ready for the event. But between me running up and down and everywhere around the office, everything started settling in after everyone finally got on the same page.
The topic was complex because when skimming through the tiring long name we’d assigned the event, one could instantly ask, “What myths could you possibly associate with ‘comparison’?” but digging deeper, it was never meant to be a topic advocating for a comparison free society. Comparisons are a part of who we are as human beings. As Max Khatri stated in his speech, comparison is one of the foundations on which we build our humanity, and on its own, is never a problem. The problem rather, is the judgment that often accompanies comparison.
We can always compare straight people to someone from the LGBT community, someone fat with someone skinny, someone tall with someone short, but it’s the comments, the decision people make that something is more/less right than something placed against it. The entire belief that something should be, and is a better choice and that you get to decide, as a community what is right for the entire world based on your collective common interests, is weak and inappropriate.
People should be allowed to make decisions for themselves and that was the point our third episode of DM tried to establish. Our keynote speakers tried to achieve the goal we’d set out in the beginning – to explore the different opinions that the audience had with regards to comparison and how society and its judgments of right and wrong had shaped them as people. We got their opinions and feedback but we’d also like yours before we move forward with anything close to a campaign in changing this culture of judging in our community.
So, what are your thoughts on the topic mentioned? Do you agree/disagree?